The motif of silence in your relationship
In a relationship it is expected that at some point you will wish to express a desire or you will be mad or disappointed or sad because of the way your partner behaves. So, while you wish to communicate with him, he remains silent instead of responding. How do you feel when that happens? The most typical response is to feel disconnected from him because he doesn’t respond to your desire or concern or to feel completely cancelled because not only he doesn’t respond but he also changes the subject.
Where does silence lead?
The motif of “silence” in a relationship is a typical sign that communication and intimacy between the couple don’t work. Some psychologists call it “demand-withdraw” pattern. Researchers have conducted more than 74 separate studies in more than 14.000 participants, coming to the common conclusion that this behavior between a couple is extremely dysfunctional.
The person who is cancelled in the relationship in time begins to store negative emotions due to lack of response and as a result is likely to come to conflict or completely disassociate from their partner.
The motif of “silence” in a relationship is a typical sign that communication and intimacy between the couple don’t work.
So, next time something like that happens, explain to your partner how does his behavior make you feel and how it affects your relationship and reestablish your communication. And of course, if you are the one who remains silent it is time to reconsider and change.